’ and we say ‘Because you’ll need to know it later when you’re in the real world,’ ” Rakow says.Like so many parental retorts, that doesn’t cut it.“They live in an immediate, self-involved place,” she says.
“If you really think they’re making a poor choice, you negotiate,” she says.
You ask how school was: “Fine.” You ask what he did: “Nothing.”“Too often, the parents give up and don’t pursue it,” Rakow says. Once your child tires of this interrogation, he might just open up and give you a few more details the first time you ask “How was school?
She prefers a play-by-play approach: What did you do in first period? ”The 7th grader can test a parent’s patience, but the key is to not surrender.
Your child may want to play a sport as well as an instrument and remain active in a youth group, running her parents ragged.
Or she may want to drop piano lessons in favor of soccer.“It’s a very exploratory time of life,” Rakow says.