Couples negotiate all sorts of differences as they figure out if they can form a sustainable, happy relationship.
An age gap may be one dimension of your relationship, but it’s unlikely to define it.
While seniors desire love, they face many obstacles beyond the social norms and taboos.Women show the opposite trend, with only 2 percent marrying men 6-9 years younger and only 1 percent having a spouse 10 or more years younger. If it seems like men who remarry often go for younger women, well, it’s not far from reality (Pew Research Center, 2014).When remarrying, only 57 percent of men marry women about their same age; 20 percent choose women who are 10 or more years younger, and 18 percent choose partners six-to-nine years younger.For example, in the case of middle-aged men marrying younger women, it's not unusual for it to be a marriage that broke up because the wife went into menopause and lost all interest in intimacy, while the husband is still vigorous and youthful, and he hooks up with a younger and emotionally mature woman who is sick and tired of immature men her own age who don't have a job and still live in his parents' basement entertaining himself with video games and porn. Again, this is only to say that each of these circumstances involve UNIQUE matches.The mistake is to try to understand these situations in terms of the stereotypical middle age man being inappropriate for a younger women, blah blah blah.Indeed, a recent poll showed that most Americans consider love (88 percent), commitment (81 percent), and companionship (76 percent) as important reasons for marrying—and these have very little to do with age.What you have to realize there are many very different reasons for age-disparity relationships.How many years are between you and your significant other?Age differences in dating relationships – and in marriages – are often a hot-button topic for couples with 5, 10, or more years between them.While individuals in age-gap relationships tend to be no more or less committed to each other than similar-aged couples, the extent to which they feel more general disapproval of their relationship, may lessen their commitment (Lehmiller & Agnew, 2006). This question is not unique to age-gap couples, but having many years between partners can make it more challenpging to navigate. Should your age-gap relationship become long-term, you might consult a financial advisor for a plan that will support both partners.In other words, having supportive friends and family could be particularly useful for age-gap relationships. Whether having a biological child or adopting, parenting in your 20s or early 30s could feel different from parenting in your 40s, 50s, or 60s, and couples would benefit from being on the same page about whether parenthood should be in their future. Age gaps can create challenges for retirement planning. It’s not easy when one person is thinking about short-term fun while the other has long-term ambitions.