When my next paramour came along, I was skeptical of our connection.
It built up and caught fire slowly, whereas my last relationship had felt undeniable from the moment we first made eye contact.
Maybe not better or worse, but definitely different.
So pay attention to the elements, big and small, that make your relationship singularly wonderful.
I certainly didn’t think that Chris Rock would be the person to help me reclaim my self-worth and pursue dating with a renewed desire to find a true partner (or bandmate, as it were) — but here we are.
Here are some of the ways that looking at relationships like being a part of a band has changed the way that I date.
It took me a while to appreciate that in this new relationship, our growing affection for each other was not only okay, but magical in its own way.“It’s so important to evaluate our past relationships,” says Kelley Kitley, relationship therapist and author of "MY self." “Take notice of any patterns of people you are attracted to for good and bad reasons.
It’s also smart to take a look at what kinds of personal traits the person you’re dating has brought out in you.
She says it’s critical for couples to be on the same page about the dynamic they’re looking for in a long-term relationship.
Comparing can get people stuck in thoughts of the grass being greener on the other side — but it can also be an opportunity for growth!
”In a new relationship, this comes more easily, but it’s even more critical as time goes on.
Even if you’re both technically “breadwinners,” each of you will need support in different ways at different times, which is why this metaphor works so well.
One of you might be used to singing lead at the office, and therefore have a hard time adjusting to picking up the tambourine at home.