Ladies, as uncomfortable as this may sound for the guys, you might be in a difficult position here as well, depending on how well you know the man initiating with you. Then I'd ask, have you had any chance at all to see him in group settings, or do you know him by reputation?If you don't have even information at that level, feel free to tell him that you want some time to think and pray about it (that is, if you're not sure at that point that you're not interested).Then — in addition to actually thinking and praying about it — ask one of your pastors or elders whether he knows him and what he thinks.If the pastor or elder you ask doesn't know him well, he can guide you to a trustworthy source that knows him better.
If we are concerned about defrauding one another (again, this idea applies to both genders but particularly to the men as the initiators), another one of the early issues to address is how much and what kind of time couples spend together.
This is not the only way the early part of a relationship might look.
These are simply suggested applications of biblical principles.
You probably won't know at this stage how things are going to ultimately turn out regarding marriage (that's why you date), so you need not communicate that right away.
But you should know what you're trying to find out and what your intentions are — that is what you, as the man, must be clear about.