I have been dating a man for about 5 months and everything is pretty good.He was married for 10 years and has been divorced for about 2. We go out often, I’ve been introduced to the family and he to mine, and he treats me like I’m his girlfriend.In my experience, there are very few women who treat men as if they’re good for nothing but sex. So yeah, a man’s ability to separate sex and love is another valid reason he’s not terribly upset when he’s single. Some of the things I hate about being single are (in no particular order): lack of love, affection and emotional support; not having someone to go on vacation with; not having someone to share domestic tasks with; being excluded from social gatherings because I don’t have a partner; not having someone to talk to at home on a day to day basis; having to cope with the financial burden of being single (apartment, bills etc.); not having a regular source of quality sex available.Surely these things apply to men just as much as women?I pay them to leave.” There are a decent number of men out there who don’t really desire the same kind of relationship as you do. Men don’t need or want women in the same way women need or want men.
I’m as sensitive as they come and I talk to my best friends in New York about once a month. As a result, Western women are very disappointed in their men, whereas men aren’t nearly as disappointed in women. We just hate the fact that you need us to change so much.
If this is the case, why aren’t men jumping up and down with excitement when they meet someone they connect with, like we are?
Why aren’t they just as keen as we are to know “where things are going” early on in the relationship? I particularly love your list of what sucks about being single.
Why don’t men hate being single as much as women do?
I know you say most men are marriage-minded underneath but they seem much less interested in getting into a stable, committed relationship than women do, and seem to drag their heels.