Health-wise, there are few things that will make as big of an impact on our longevity and decreased stress-levels as having a circle of friends.
Making our friendships our priority isn't just a "nice-to-have-if-we-have-time," but a necessity of a healthy, happy and meaningful life.3.
Our greatest fear as humans is that of being rejected so it makes complete sense that we hear that voice!
It can feel very vulnerable to put ourselves out there, fearful that we want friends more than others do.
3) And finally, that there is no way to get to those deep and meaningful places with people we love without going through the stages of getting together with strangers that we don't yet know that well.
Every relationship has to start at the beginning with two people who have never danced together, which means all of us will have our insecurities.
The question isn't how many friends you have but whether you feel like your life is supported by the ones you have. " I teach the five Circles of Connectedness -- the five different types of friends we have and need -- to help us articulate the difference between the different roles that various friends can play in our lives.
Many of us know a ton of people and feel guilty about not staying in touch with everyone, but those are two different circles of friends than having a few close friends we feel close and connected to.
We all have to eventually value the end goal enough to put up with some of the awkward moments in getting there.I've come to a new milestone and am new to a city/just started a new job/am entering parenthood/have found myself living the single life.I'm embarrassed to have such a lame social life and have never felt so alone.And no one wants to be friends with anyone who doesn't have friends to begin with.So making friends is NOT EASY, and I've given up extending myself when no one ever bothers extending themselves to me. is a GREAT way to get out and get to know like-minded individuals.I compare Girl Friend -- the online female friendship site I founded -- to a health club.Just as you can get healthy and in shape without a health club, so can you make friends without going online.It can feel embarrassing, though, and since there is not nearly an official friendship-courting ritual as there tends to be with dating, it can also be downright confusing.Shasta Nelson, the founder of Girlfriend Circles, has set out to do something about it.In other words, you may not silence the fear, and that's OK. Online is actually a great place for taking it slow.In my book, I talk about this a lot in the context of defining courage and understanding how we can minimize our vulnerability by doing it incrementally so that it may feel a little safer as trust is being built. But remember, a friendship website is just a tool, just as a party or a telephone both can be -- they in and of themselves are not good or bad or untrustworthy, they are simply one other way to connect with people.