One of life’s interesting phenomenon is that we often reject the very thing we seek.
So the most distant and emotionally unavailable people desperately want to be available and feel that connection, but the fear and learned coping strategies get in the way.
There are so many ways things can and almost certainly will go wrong, so the chances of the two of you making it work aren’t good. Without it, even soulmates will miss their opportunity. And to be completely honest, while it brought me very close to the edge, I ended up a whole lot stronger and wiser for it.
So, even if you’re fighting a losing battle, find solace in the fact that even losing can end up being a win.
It’s about where he is at in this moment emotionally and staying with that discomfort, instead of running or presenting it as fixed, resolved or all sorted out.
Because even if he actually can, that he can’t guarantees that he won’t. Just know that you’re likely getting on one hell of an emotional roller coaster. While we didn’t end up together, I still loved the ride.
And as the years go by and the painting continues to grow in both detail and size, we create new artistic representations of love that we didn't know existed.
What most of us never bother to even consider, however, is the possibility that the canvas itself may be infinite.
Different people will react to a broken heart differently. To be completely honest with you, your chances aren’t good.
Some will lash out at the world, punishing their livers and overall physical and mental health by partying and sleeping around, hoping to cover up the pain with debauchery. Others know that doing a bunch of bad doesn’t help you forget the bad that was done to you. The only issue is that they aren’t ready to find it. From my personal experiences, and from the experiences that friends and readers have shared with me, it would seem that people must be ready for love before they meet someone they can potentially love.