He is going through a divorce and I have always been attracted to him and we have done things in the past.But now that he is free of the marriage bond he meets some 19 year old girl online and moves her 2 hours from her hometown.But nonetheless, you may start to wonder: is this the best thing for this person I love?Will this "sometime thing" truly make him or her happy?(See Deborah Taj Anapol's great post on polyamory here.) But why?
But this assumes that whatever you give when you love someone is limited or scarce, so that giving some (or more) to Jane or Joe means giving less to Janet or John.
The most obvious problem is that you may be devoting resources to the other person—especially time—that your committed partner expects from you.
But let's imagine that this doesn't happen; that is, you manage to engage in the new relationship without neglecting your partner in terms of presence (say, by corresponding with your secret someone by email at work).
Of course it's ideal if you can leave the current relationship for a shot at a new one, but it's not always that easy.
Sometimes you can't leave, or other times you don't Another thought provoking post!