The puppy dog thing will get old after a while, leaving him feeling stupid/angry and you feeling unfulfilled, annoyed and guilty – not to mention that other guys you might actually become interested in will get the wrong idea.They’re part of the college lifestyle, and you can choose if you want to engage in them or not (certainly, you can avoid making out with the guy you’ve been dancing with all night if you’re just not that into it).A fifth of respondents said they knew their partner “very well” before their hookup.Hookups were not always just a single night, but rather the beginning of a longer term relationship.Your freshman year is meant for new beginnings, not dwelling on old relationships.Phone calls between Texas and Massachusetts won’t bring you back together—it’ll only keep you from meeting new people that are just beyond your dorm room door. As casual as these settings are, it can be a great place to get to know a guy or meet someone new. A mother’s wisest words—if guys see you going out night after night, how will they ever get to miss you?Take these experiences for what they are, and don’t think he’s fallen in love with you simply because he’s been attached to your mouth all night.Attention from upperclassmen is surely a plus in any freshman’s book, because they’re seasoned.
That said, don’t feel the need to hook up with him purely because he’s “older and wiser…” because he may just turn out to be pretty stupid.
The authors speculate that greater familiarity created a false sense of safety and a greater sense of trust that lead to more unprotected sex.
“When we asked people about their last hookup, they were actually on average on their fourth hookup with the same person," Kuperberg found.
“Even we believed that men would be interested in casual sex over long-term relationships,” Kuperberg said. Kuperberg found that the contributing factors to unprotected sex during a hookup were heavy alcohol intake, marijuana use and knowing your hookup partner well.
When students were friends with the person they were hooking up with or had repeated hookups with the same partner, they were less likely to use a condom but also less likely to have been binge drinking.