On one hand he is excited and happy and on the other hand he is extremely scared and anxious because he feels that I will end up betraying him like his ex.
He did mention that it’s unfair on his part to say that but that’s how he really feels.
I figured out that this may be the reason why he is slow, subdued and cautious in his approach.
Of late, he has not been responding to my phone calls or emails and that disturbed me.
Fortunately for you, this isn’t the case and here is why – No one can “fix” anyone but themselves and all attempts to the contrary will end in abject failure.
Any long term change requires desire and conviction and it has to come from the person that has to do the alterations, personally.
I worry we may not be able to share any major life events for the first time as a couple in light of his already having been married and having children. I believe that when I make my vows I am giving him a very special gift and I find the fact that he is not able to do the same difficult to deal with. The reality is that many people nowadays have been married before, myself included.
I give you credit for seeing something special in your mate and being open to the idea of taking it slow.
I caution you against viewing his reticence as the main block aid in the relationship.
He is not a chaser in the sense, he did not actively pursue me like the men I had relationships with before.
We met through a common friend and our relationship has been growing slowly but steadily.