I know it’s legal to drink alcohol; but if you notice an ongoing pattern of drinking during the day (especially before lunch or supper), you might have someone who’s abusing alcohol.
There are others who might be taking prescription drugs, but these also can be abused.
They complain about the men they call "nice guy, push-over" types, who don't stir passionate feelings. Personally, I would like to offer an alternative hypothesis—one where women have been put in a very unfulfilling double-bind.
They also have difficulty with men they label attractive "jerks", who disrespect them, ignore their needs, and break hearts. I would like to posit that cultural and biological factors have been pitted at odds, leaving women in a "no win situation" most of the time in modern life.
Anyone who’s taking legal or illegal substances for the express purpose of impairing one’s judgment or being in an altered state of mind is a person you shouldn’t date.
Anyone you’re dating with substance abuse problems may fool you into thinking, Don’t believe it. If you’re considering dating someone or dating someone now, please think about these signs, which should tell you that you might be dating the wrong person, especially if it’s someone who’s obsessed with themselves, someone who has no hunger or thirst for the things of God, someone who is silent about their faith, someone who doesn’t like children or pets, and someone who’s abusing drugs or alcohol.
In her book, Why We Love, author Helen Fisher describes three types of love: Each of these types of love can have very different origins and be independently expressed for different people.
For example, one woman might find that she lusts after her partner, is attracted to him, and securely attached (perhaps that is the ideal).
If all these things are absent, you might be dating the wrong person.Here again, I posit that at least some of women's frustration in modern dating can be explained through a double-bind.Particularly, this double bind occurs between the type of men that women find attractive (from biological/evolutionary origin)...Have you ever been with other Christians who have publicly shared their faith? But if you’re dating someone who is embarrassed to pray in public before a meal or never even speaks the name of Jesus for fear of being overheard, there may be concerns about the person you’re dating.For most Christians they cannot help but speak about Jesus and God’s amazing grace. It seems they can see through hypocrisy easier than adults can.Lust and attraction are often more deep-seated, primal, and uncontrolled feelings.Usually, it is impossible to "choose" to be turned on or attracted to a partner.Particularly, women I speak to say that they can't find a good man.They lament over the guys that they say are stuck in childhood, not taking responsibility for their lives.If you’re dating someone who’s only interested in going where they want to go and doing what they want to do without asking your opinion, you might be dating the wrong person.A great sign is when the person you’re dating asks you what you want to do, even if it’s not their thing.