You feel like the best way to get you over this breakup is to fall head over heels all over again. Go into each date with the mindset of just having fun, getting your mind off your ex and moving on for the evening, no other expectations.
What else can get your mind off of your heartbreak? What could better prove to him that he f*cked up then another guy realizing how great you are, and swooping you out of the single pool immediately? You just got out of a relationship, take this as your chance to date around and date different types of people. Ask yourself whether you're going on a date tonight because you genuinely want to or because you're in a hurry to move on with just about anyone?
He may have been cute at the bar, but when you trolled his Instagram page, he has about 13 selfies.
All of a sudden you think he has to be a secret porn addict who lives in his parents' basement. When you’re not 100 percent sold on dating being “fun,” you can easily create excuses to write people off and say no to dates.
Putting yourself out there takes patience and can be extremely frustrating.
The utter sadness and despair you feel post-breakup is exacerbated by the fears of fix ups, loneliness, considering or Tinder, and of course, rejection.
One hitch — you're unsure if it's too soon to join a dating app. "It's never too soon because I've literally downloaded it to see if he downloaded it as well!!!
" – Gail "This is bad but I do it during the argument that is leading up to breaking up and swipe while we argue to calm myself and be like 'ok theres plenty more out there'" – Gi Gi "Always follow the Joey Tribbiani rule: half an hour." – Tess "Who cares, as soon as you want to get back on your feet and sign up, sign up." – Anon "Apps are what I turn to when I'm hurting over a guy or trying to get through a breakup.
I jump on Tinder or whatever pretty much immediately after to fill the void." – Amanda "I waited two months out of respect for the relationship because I didn't want to hurt him any more than I had." – Lee "Fuck his feelings.
When we are faced with the “single again” situation, there are common things we all WANT to do, but in reality, these things are not what we SHOULD be doing.
To best heal your breakup wounds, you should avoid doing the following (we know, they’re tempting as hell), and opt for the less appealing, but healthier options: You just lost a guy who gave you constant attention, affection and care.
You dont want to bring baggage from your broken heart into a brand new relationship, and no one likes to be a rebound.
It may take time for you to make sure you’re not just rebounding or acting out due to your heartbreak. Putting too much pressure on falling in love right away will undoubtedly leave you disappointed and further delay your “getting over it” process.