Like John Travolta’s character Danny Zuko in Grease, the men of today (and yesteryear) all labour through the trials of dating under the misguided notion that “playing it cool” gets the girl. Well, if the dating game today is anything to go by, then apparently we do. Following “The Rules” that state that you cannot seem too interested in a guy is probably the wrong way to go about getting your man. Do we really think that “treat ’em mean to keep ’em keen” is really all it’s cracked up to be?Well, it might help to first figure out which side the players are on in this big game of indifference.A person who is playing hard to get will more than likely have other guys or girls that are interested in them.If someone is playing hard to get they will avoid hurting your feelings unnecessarily.
How then, can we find our perfect match if both guys and girls try their best to seem uninterested?
You might have told all your friends that you are done with playing games, and you just want to be honest with the next person you date. It’s all well and good being straight and upfront with your next date, but if you are looking for something serious then honesty might not be the best policy.
A study in The European Journal of Personality presents data collected from a group of young men and women attending four different universities.
Advocates also elucidate that a woman making herself easily available to men may increase her chances of being unconsciously or unscrupulously taken advantage of or abused.
By applying a deliberate approach to relationships, Rules champions suggest, a woman has the time and space to discover and reflect upon the character and actions of a man she is dating.