You wouldn't go up to a larger woman and say, "Hey, big girl," so why is it OK to say it to dudes? "You're a guy, so you'll lose that weight quick if you want to." I've actually lost a lot of weight in the past year by going on a medical fast and eating 800 calories per day, but I'm lucky. I don't know what you're trying to tell me here, but why you gotta let me know I look like a "fatter version"? Plenty of fat dudes do yoga and aerobics and jog a mile (I do it by running from zombies! And the first thing people say when we express our frustration with our weight? And we often don't get that chance because the awesome rainbow cardigan at H&M is a European extra-large, which is like an American extra-small. "Maybe you have thyroid problems." Could be, but those are rare and I've had my thyroid checked.Many of us are uncomfortable about our size so drawing attention to it — especially in a public place or as a greeting — doesn't make us feel more masculine, it makes us feel embarrassed. Just because it's true that men lose weight faster than women doesn't mean we all drop it by just not eating an entire pie at lunch. No one goes around saying "You look like a small-assed Kim Kardashian" or "You look like Drew Barrymore if she'd gained a little weight." None of us look like those celebrities anyway, so you don't need the qualifier.5. I don't want to go through exactly what my shopping experience is like, but if you've ever seen that episode of where Ross tries to get back into a pair of leather pants, it's just like that. Lots of stuff contributes to being fat other than a thyroid disorder. I am not allergic to leafy vegetables packed with fiber.Let me explain…(we gotta get a little nerdy here so you can understand but I promise it’s worth it so keep reading)…Our mind has an unconscious mechanism (which means we don’t even realise we are doing it!Now don’t get me wrong, there are women who are specifically attracted to fat or overweight men.This could however narrow the chances for an overweight man to find a suitable partner, and it’s not the question I was asked.
In addition, treating the true cause can often auto-correct a lot of the above as well.) that always looks for evidence that our current beliefs are accurate The intention of this is to stop us going crazy, but it can have unintended consequences if we don’t know about it Here’s an example of it working: An atheist and a person who believes in God both believe they are right about their belief.Because of their belief, they both look for evidence of their belief being correct, and their brains find evidence that supports their belief and makes them highly aware of it, and it hides or downplays evidence that undermines or conflicts with their belief.Ask yourself “how many more days do I want to keep telling myself that story and clinging to those reasons? When are you going to let go in order to have a different life?3 – Be brutally honest with yourself and accept that you are responsible for everything in your life being the way that it is. Because only when you accept that you are the cause of the problems do you get to be the solution to them as well. Start to declare that you are an attractive, healthy, athletic person, and start to look for ways in which it’s true.As I said at the top of this article, the thought process to arrive at the conclusion that ‘fat guys are not attractive’ is the EXACT same thought process that a guy who believes he’s not rich enough, or not good looking enough, or not tall enough, or not the right racial background and so on goes through to arrive at their own limiting conclusions. Above is a simple diagram that explains how our thoughts and our beliefs create our life experience.It’s the same process when we aren’t happy with our results as when we are happy with our results. I know people are all "looks don't matter," but they totally do. "I'm just trying to help." Listen, I'm going to share a harsh truth with you here: People know they're fat. "You're just big-boned, man." The bones in my butt and stomach are particularly large, yes. One of the most difficult things for a fat dude to hear, especially when dating, is that they have a great personality but no other redeeming physical characteristics. When you remind us how "unhealthy" we are, all you're doing is reducing us to our weight and that doesn't feel good. If I haven't suggested I might like to go for a 10-mile hike, telling me how much I'd enjoy it every time I see you is a mistake (and also makes me thing you want to get me alone so you can murder me in the wilderness).7.This was his (paraphrased) question: “I’m not looking for a woman my size, but to get someone who’s probably not my physicality, but still attractiveness, but this is me at the end of the day, I’m not gonna go to the gym, I’m not going to try…I feel this is me.I’ve accepted myself for who I am.” As he asked the question, he frequently referred to the fact that he was overweight, and seemed to strongly believe that his weight and appearance were the biggest obstacle to him being attractive and finding a girlfriend.