In a similar study conducted in the early 1990s, 91 percent of women and 87 percent of men said they wouldn't marry someone unless they were in love with them.Love has, accordingly, become a pursuit—something we look for and fight for and treat as a fundamental component of a happy and successful life.(We got engaged 3 weeks after we met and married one year later). Here’s what I know for sure: finding true love is possible for any one at age.To manifest your soulmate here are the ten top things to do and remember: Prior to meeting Brian, I had a daily ritual in which I would light several candles at sunset, put on my favorite CD of Gregorian chants and sit in my big, cozy chair.Resist the temptation to find your soulmate by leaving it to the fates: improve yourself and your dating strategies in order to increase the likelihood of finding your lover.Humans, the playwright Aristophanes argued, once had four arms, four legs, and two faces.My intentions became crystal clear while I simultaneously cleared out the clutter in my house AND in my heart.I learned and invented techniques, rituals, visualizations and prayers that helped me prepare my body, mind, spirit and home for an amazing relationship. Six months after I began the adventure I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations.
Those extra-ancient, multi-limbed humans had become arrogant, Aristophanes had it, and the gods, being gods, resented that. So he came up with a plan that was devious in its elegance: He would cut humans in half. After Zeus had done his work—he did the dividing, and Apollo helpfully sewed up the new creatures, with only the belly buttons remaining as evidence of the surgery—humans wandered the world a little bit lost, a little bit desperate. * * *Today, we don't necessarily think of soul mates in the Aristophenian kind of way, as an epic extension of the plot of the movie Face/Off.
That transformation—the result of, among many other things, the industrial revolution/the women's movement/a good economy/a bad one—has been, in the last couple of decades, complemented by another kind of revolution: the transformation in communications brought about by the Internet.
There's the rise of texting, and the related decline of email/phone calls/letter-writing.
There's the invention of Match and JDate and Farmers Only and e Harmony and Ok Cupid and Hinge and Grindr and Tinder, and all those services’ attendant possibilities and paradoxes of choice.
Our communications are newly instant and newly distant, and that shift is changing not just the culture at large, but also the way we approach the sparking and the maintenance of relationships.