we just wanted to help women stop making mistakes and get the men of their dreams—and that’s what we still do now, 20 years later!Today, Ellen is married with two children and lives in New York, and Sherrie is married with a teenage daughter and lives in New Jersey.We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!Like most women our age, we were career-minded with our own apartments, but we also wanted to get married.So over fried tofu and mixed vegetables, we each brought our dating problems to the table.We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.We did The Rules, wrote The Rules, and have helped millions of women do The Rules, too. Whether you were recently hurt or haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you want immediate gratification and compensation for all the pain and heartache of recent years or even decades.
The Rules doesn't try to tell you you're worth more - it just tells you what to do, but those actions are the actions of a person who has self-respect. I have a work friend who keeps giving me her "Rules" books to read, so I read to oblige.Here is a comprehensive list of dos and don'ts that will help every woman conduct an e-courtship safely and successfully; find and keep the interest of suitable mates; and save time, energy, and potential heartache by weeding out dead wood. I have violated almost all of the "rules" at one point or another in this book and guess what?The Rules for Online Dating takes women through the process -- step by step, Rule by Rule -- to the ultimate goal: a relationship based on mutual attraction, interest, and respect. It didn't always break it--sometimes it made it for me.If you've never read The Rules, and I wouldn't blame you for giving it a miss, you should know it attempts to dictate to women how to act with men so that they end up with what they want - presumably a husband and a Happily Ever After. All men are not created equal, even in the world of online dating.In that sense, The Rules for Online Dating is much the same, just updated for the 21st century. I think the bi I'm giving this one 2 stars because there is no option for 1.5 stars. Does this book give a handful of practical tips specifically for online dating? But ultimately, you have to do what feels right for you.Again there are ways not to be desperate and needy without having to lie or spill your guts about your entire past. Occasionally the authors say, "It's just not right," but that's about it. We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.What the international phenomenon of The Rules did for conventional dating, The Rules for Online Dating does for the search for love on the Internet.You'll never hit the "reply" button the same way again.Take your fabulous self on to the next likely candidate! I recognize (and very much resent) that the concept of working the Rules is accurate - meaning it is human nature to want what you can't have, so a female tends to up her stock by appearing to be unavailable.It can be hard advice to follow, but by doing it, you present yourself as someone with self-respect, which you should be anyway. It is disturbing how many women have to pretend to have a self I have a work friend who keeps giving me her "Rules" books to read, so I read to oblige.