If they took a little longer look they'd see something different.They see all the great qualities they want in a guy are in me, because I'm a dad. Women want a man who is caring and compassionate, yet strong and courageous.
We understand that being a single father can be very hard, demanding, and quite lonely and that it doesn't leave you with very much time to meet or date other singles..Not long after I did, would come that ever burning question, “Wait, you're 31 and you have an 11 year old? Suddenly the conversation stops, and they disappear. There goes another potential match off into the potential match graveyard that has become the list of contacts in my phone. I am the dad in Target, browsing the toy section with my 4-year-old as he tries to pick “just one.” I'm a little annoyed that he's taking so long, but so happy just watching him. “Picking out a toy is tough,” I say to him, laughing a little.Crickets figuratively chirp on the other end of the line. Suddenly she walks by with her cart, and looks at us with a smile.We can offer you those things because we understand their importance, and when we get to see you finally, we have so much to give.It's not so insane to think that dating a father is a good thing, and maybe the stigma that it comes with baggage should be pushed aside.They desire a man who is honest and sincere, down to earth and stable.To be a good father, I have no option but to possess those qualities and the ones I'm not born with; I learn as my kids grow.My baggage isn't baggage, but the badge of a man who has been there and done that.A man who doesn't run from responsibility, and isn't afraid of the words “love, “marriage” and “family.”It is the badge of a man, who has done things wrong, and made every effort to learn how to do it right.We support each other and co-parent because our kids are what matters, not us.We respect and admire one another as parents and people, regardless of the fact that we didn't work out.