Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear: If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women. However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!Japanese guys are often too shy, scared or whatever and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.As a result it is tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.It is by far not impossible and I know quite a few girls who don’t only have a Japanese boyfriend, but are also married to a Japanese man, but it is still the BIG exception!Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan.I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have.Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that.
One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it!In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.Because of all that I’ve seen couples who got divorced, even when there were kids involved.I noticed that those kind of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan.For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.