Why I wrote this book: When I was an advisor at Harvard, I noticed that smart women like yourself were having unfulfilling love lives on an epidemic scale. Partially because I'm not your grandma, and partially because the 21st century poses unprecedented challenges to the modern woman.They either couldn't find the right guy, were with the wrong guy, had relationships that didn't last, or had given up on dating entirely. Is there time for love within a high-powered career? Ancient Wisdom Modern Science = lasting love happiness for successful women like yourself.It's hard to understand or even explain why one is attracted to the "bad guy" especially if it's not that obvious in the beginning, and then, how I got so deep into this wrong relationship to the point that I didn't even notice how I was being manipula I ordered the "Tao of Dating" while still recovering from an abusive relationship which took me almost 3 years to get over.
And instead of coming from a place of lack or need, you're coming from abundance, joy, and choice. Focus on this question instead: How can I make the people around me feel like a million bucks? The power to elevate, on the other hand, is power that cannot be taken away from you. And because we're hypersocial, empathic beings equipped with mirror neurons, YOU light up, and everyone notices: Who is that glow-in-the-dark girl? But most important: Butts and butt fashions change.The book is not perfect, but it helped me see the things that matter, the things that make a guy a "Good Guy", that I can't establish with I read this book 2 years ago and have since bought copies of it for six women I love, including my mother, sister and girlfriends, which sets a personal record that I doubt will be broken by another book.The book is not perfect, but it helped me see the things that matter, the things that make a guy a "Good Guy", that I can't establish within a first date or a resume scan.It's hard to understand or even explain why one is attracted to the "bad guy" especially if it's not that obvious in the beginning, and then, how I got so deep into this wrong relationship to the point that I didn't even notice how I was being manipulated and unable to leave.After leaving, I was so afraid, I came to the point that I gave up on even trying to date or look for a partner (at 38 y). I read it through and then, read it again, started doing the little exercises and incorporating the ideas into my daily life. It has changed my perspective on and expectations of relationships in general.My notes on what I got out of each chapter:1) Dating for Fulfilment Why so many of us, when hungry, choose the menu over the food.When dating, we should be looking for the feeling of fulfilment, not at the person and his "credentials".2) Who You Really Are Good for any women who doubt their value in this world as a woman, and need to remember how important and divine they are.If I had a physical copy of this book, this chapter would have the softest, most frayed-edge pages drenched with highlighter ink. BE6) Beliefs7) Attitudes This section is about cultivating your mind and disciplining your behaviour, keeping yourself happy and fulfilled with or without a man. It is easy to read, appeals on a number of levels, both simple and straightforward all the way to the more spiritual and meditative levels..is also practical.Skip if you're already pretty happy with yourself and don't have body image or other self-esteem issues. DO8) Find9) Meet Good advice but none of this applied to how I met my boyfriend.10) Attract I did the Listening practice with my housemate a couple years ago and should probably do it more often.11) Romance, or what to do on a date Includes: The five masculating gifts (this is itself a gift from Dr. There are bits and pieces that everyone, at any level, can take from this book. However, I picked this one up and read it cover to cover in about 3 nights.