Relationships also those other silly things like respect, the ability to change, stability, and understanding.
Basically, Love is not enough (which goes against everything Disney taught me).
The only comparable feeling is probably when I won tickets to see a live taping of Stephen Colbert, discovered chocolate soy milk (milk allergy), or, like, my future kid gets married.And it is a little bit scary trying to live day by day. The hardest part of an intercultural relationship is deciding when to compromise, when to fight, and when to draw the line. What are you supposed to do if your partner is completely opposed to your religion?Sure, this week I think it is a bit silly (but adorable) that Ryosuke makes me wipe my feet off with wet wipes before climbing into bed (even if I have been wearing slippers all day). He likes the fact I am ambitious and want to have a solid career, but what about in five years, when his family is pressuring me to quit my job to have (and take care of) kids? What if he thinks you should quit your job after marriage to become a housewife?The other two books I know of AMWF relationships are: More than anything, it is a collection of stories from eight foreign women who are married (or were married) to Japanese men.It shows an honest look at what AMWF relationships look like, ten to twenty years after the couple first says “I do.” Our relationship is fantastic, frustrating, and full of fun.If you’re ‘lucky’ no one will come up to you in the street and ask “why are you dating him? The closer the friend, the more you tend to dislike their choice of a partner.Expect the roles to be reversed on you, except this time, your friends and family have a whole new way to judge your partner – race, religion, culture, and cultural beliefs. In the course of your AMWF relationship, you will run across old friends and new acquaintances who want to ‘save you from ignoring this obvious problem.’ Most of them mean well. But people’s words hurt a lot more than they realize. While it would be foolish to ignore the impact Japanese culture will have on my relationship, our foreign cultures are not the determining factor on whether we can have a successful marriage.Here are some of my favorite: If you want your blog or website added to this site, just leave a comment and I will add you :) Change is fun, but every day is a struggle.There is no way to coast in an interracial relationship. Some of the time it is simple trade-offs like “I will wipe me feet off before getting into bed if you don’t do laundry every day.” Or “I will shower in the evening if you will buy beer instead of sake.” Other times it is complicated things you don’t know how to compromise on.What if he is racist against other Asian countries? I talked about some of the cultural disagreements I’ve had in this post about the differences between couples fighting in America and in Japan. I speak Japanese fairly-fluently (can understand everything, but have trouble formulating all of my thoughts in a timely and concise manner).I’ve been with my husband for almost three years; we are finding things we need to compromise on. But there is a understanding no matter how much we study each other’s languages, we will never be an integral part of each other’s families.