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1-2004 Being Single in a "Coupled" World 3-2005 Parents as Role Models for Love 11-2008 Relocating For Love: How/When is this Decision Made?
8-2003 It may not be Meant to be 5-2004 Meeting His/Her family for the First Time 12-2004 Is Sharing Your Partner Ever a Good Idea?
8-2011 Cramming for that first date 1-2012 An older but not necessarily wiser dater 9-2012 Risking friendship For Love 1-2005 The Vacation-less Relationship 10-2007 Roommates With benefits or More 12-2007 Is It Real Interest Or Nostalgia? 7-2009 The Pursuing-Distancing Relationship Dynamic 10-2011 Down and Confused About Being Dumped 1-2013 Are Online "Dates" Really Dating?
3-2004 Chemistry Has Several Elements 10-2004 How, When and What Do I Share about My Past?
5-2008 Knowing this is "The One" vs Settling 7-2003 A Good Example of the Wrong Chemistry 2-2004 Do the clothes make the Man? 6-2004 Is it Religious Incompatibility or Something Else?
7-2005 Help For the Flirting Challenged 12-2005 Falling For the Man She Sees Every Day 7-2006 Falling in Love too Fast? 8-2004 Are long Distance Relationships doomed from the start? 6-2008 Relationship Cold feet 9-2010 Copyright 2008 Antoinette Coleman. Distribution Rights: The above material is copyrighted, but you may retransmit or distribute it to whomever you wish as long as not a single word is changed, added or deleted, including the contact information. Reprint permission will be granted, upon request, to student newspapers, universities, and other nonprofit organizations.
8-2009 In love with a sexual addict 10-2010 In love with a "bad girl" 1-2011 Hinting about wanting to end relationship 3-2011 Am I mixed up with Mr. 4-2011 To love, honor and live with obesity 9-2011 The Reluctant Stepboyfriend 3-2012 Where Do You Meet Ms. 1-2009 Tired of Feeling like Every Woman's Brother 9-2009 Tired of Always Settling 10-2009 Interested in (possibly) someone else's FWB 6-2011 Is it OK to date more than one man at a time?Just like when you’re selling a product, you might pitch that product to 500 ready buyers and not land a single sale. Then day three, four, five, six, twenty, thirty, etc. That’s when I realized a 2 sentence snippet about how awesome you are at Modern Warfare 3), searching the member directory and contacting women that interest you, and responding to your messages in a timely manner. I’ve already mentioned my basic reasoning for being active on multiple sites.Attracting women online is more than just numbers, but make no mistake, numbers do play a factor. When you’re active on 3-4 sites, this will take time out of your day. But the time you spend on it will be worth it in the end. Now I’m going to give you the more specific answer – women are indecisive.Let’s face it – women have a tendency to not be able to make up their minds. If your profile attributes do not match any of those, she won’t ever so much as see your profile. If you’re into tomboys, for example, she’s likely to be attracted to men that are into sports. Just like you wouldn’t want a sports-hating woman if you were a sports junkie. Take it easy, slick, don’t go running away because you’re not Brad Pitt.So you need to be contacting many different women until you find the one that is in the right frame of mind and will give you a shot. Choose the attributes that the type of woman you desire is likely to seek. The next part of creating a killer profile is to use a nice photo of yourself. I’m not either, yet I still have tons of success meeting women online. We see a hottie and the first thought is “must…contact her…now!That will be good enough to at least get her to read what you have to say. No, I’m not some skuzzy salesman trying to fleece my way into her pants.Oh, and no shirt on in your profile picture means no love. I’m simply doing my best to give her reasons why she should buy, err, give me her digits.That is exactly why you should be active on multiple sites. Women are more likely to contact a guy that is less physically attractive, yet has an awesome profile, than a more attractive guy with a crummy profile. ” Women see an attractive guy, smile, and immediately go read every last word of his profile before deciding if they want to contact him. However, they will be turned off immediately if your picture portrays you as a complete slob. This is the mentality I have when attempting to attract women online.Diversify your online dating portfolio, sell yourself, and start scoring some dates! Take a look at the profiles of different women on your dating site. The best way to get women to initiate contact with you first is by writing a killer profile. All you have to do is comb your hair, dress decent, and smile. I’m always trying to sell myself in a manner that women are receptive to.Therefore, we urge you to come to this page anytime to see if any of the dating advice, dating help or dating tips we have already made available online can help you with your important issues.We maintain an archive of past columns on this page, which you can browse through anytime you have a need and are looking for quick feedback.